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Bullying, Healthy Relationships and Health and Wellbeing

Keeping well is important to keep good mental health. Being active, being with the people who make you feel good and care about you, getting out and about and doing the things you enjoy helps maintain good mental health and wellbeing.

Having good positive relationships with others  helps support our mental health and wellbeing. The relationships we have with others can be good or bad. We all have relationships: family, friends, work mates, school teachers, class mates, the people you live with, hang around with and even the people you try and avoid! But what makes a good relationship?

Relationships are not always perfect, it is quite normal to have disagreements  but there are some things everyone deserves to ensure a happy and healthy relationship. Communication is key to any good relationship.  If communication has broken down and your relationship with that person is suffering it can be very hard to know what to do or who you can talk with about it.

Below are ways to build and maintain good mental health, wellbeing, relationships and where you can get support if your are experiencing low mental health, wellbeing or when relationships have broken down or experiencing poor relationships with others.

Activities and Things to Do

Keeping engaged in the things you love and enjoy ca really support with keeping good mental health.

Check Shine for ad hoc activities happening throughout the year and during the school holidays.

Also search for activities and things to do, happening on a more regular basis using the online services directory search

Bullying

Bullying is all too common. Bullying can happen to anyone at any age. Bullying is when someone deliberately hurts you and usually happens over time. Being bullied at school, home or online might involve:

  • verbal bullying e.g. calling you names
  • emotional bullying e.g. teasing you, talking about you, leaving you out, harassment
  • physical bullying e.g. pushing you, hitting you
  • cyber-bullying e.g. text message, Facebook, email

No one has the right to hurt you or make you feel bad, and if you are being bullied you don't have to put up with it, you can talk to someone about it. You have the right to be treated with dignity and respect. If you are being bullied it is sometimes difficult to now what to do.

Talk it over with someone you trust. You might not be ready to tackle the problem but it can help you decide what you would like to happen.

Whatever you do, don't just put up with it. Though it isn't always easy to tackle the bullies, there are laws to protect you, whether you are in school, online or at work. By keeping silent, you are doing what the bully wants and protecting them.

Where to get help if you are being bullied

You can talk to any adult in your school about bullying.

You can ring Childline on 0800 11 11 and you can talk to them about anything that has upset you or makes you worry.

Online advice and support is available, please refer to suggested websites below:

BBC Advice

Childline

National Bullying Helpline

Think U Know

Yorkshire MESMAC

Young Minds

Counselling, Help Line, Support Groups and Wellbeing Services

There are many services offering support by a range of methods including text, face to face, telephone, email and face to face support. Find out more information on services providing emotional health and wellbeing support using our online search. Alternatively get in touch with the Young People Information Service and we will try and help you find support.

Domestic Violence and Abuse

Domestic violence and abuse is used to describe controlling or threatening behaviour between couples or ex couples, family members of from people in a position of trust. It can affect anyone. 

This isn't just about physical violence and threat but domestic violence and abuse  can also be emotional, sexual, financial control, forced marriage, 'honour based' violence and female genital mutilation.

If you are living with violence or abuse it can be difficult to know who to turn to or how to get out. Sometimes people are too scared of the consequences to tell someone , so live in silence and fear. Sometimes people think they deserve this abuse or feel it is their fault in some way. Violence from one person to another is never justified. If you are living with violence or abuse or the far of it, you are not to blame. Support is also available from a number of places. If you are in immediate danger call 999.

IDAS (independent domestic abuse service) supports anyone affected by domestic abuse and sexual violence. They can provide safe temporary accommodation for anyone feeling domestic violence including parents and their children. They also have an outreach service for anyone experiencing domestic abuse including for children aged 5+. 

Supporting Victims provides free information and advice to anyone who have bee victims of domestic violence. They also work with other agencies that they can refer you to for help, support and advice.

Galop supports LGBTQ+ people who have experienced abuse and violence.

For a further list of services who support those affected by domestic abuse and violence please use the online Domestic Abuse and Violence search facility or contact the Young People Information Service.

Rape and Sexual Assault

Being raped or sexually assaulted is an extremely distressing experience. If this has happened to you, remember that it is not your fault. You may well know your attacker, which can make dealing with it even harder. It can be very difficult to talk to someone about what has happened; however, there are people you can contact for support.

If you are in immediate danger call the police on 999 and get to a safe place. If you are not in immediate danger you can report a rape or sexual assault to the police on 101 or contact Bridge House, the Sexual Assault Referral Centre (SARC) for York.and North Yorkshire. They can talk you through your options with you and offer a range of services; links to specially trained officers, medical support to gather evidence, advice about sexual health and independent support from a Sexual Violence Advisor. If you have been attacked, try not to wash yourself or any clothing (including underwear) ad get support as soon as possible.

For a further list of services who support those affected by rape and sexual assault please use the online sexual abuse search facility or contact the Young People Information Service.

School Nurses 

Need to talk to a school nurse? The City of York Healthy Child Service (5 - 19) team is made up of Specialist Community Public Health Nurses (SCPHNs) and Children and Young Peoples Outreach Nurses (CYPHONs) who work with school age children in the York area.

The school nurses are there to offer support and advice around all your healthy needs and have a key role in supporting children and young people in school settings.

They:

  • help support the physical and emotional health and wellbeing of children and young people
  • provide advice on healthy choices (healthy eating, dental health, sexual health and substance misuse)
  • offer health reviews to ensure your child continues to reach its full potential
  • provide specific support for families with complex needs such as diabetes and asthma
  • offer advice and information on health issues such as bed wetting and behavioural problems
  • work closely with your child’s school to promote a healthy lifestyle
  • offer the childhood immunisation programme to protect against disease and infection

Young people can contact the school nurses confidentially by texting or calling telephone: 07833 437363, Monday to Friday, 8.30am to 5.00pm

You can now book online appointments with the nurses using Attend Anywhere, an online appointments service allowing you to talk to a nurse using your phone, tablet or laptop.

To book an appointment email hcs-secure@york.gov.uk with your name, email address and mobile number. The school nurses will organise a time and date for your virtual appointment and send you a link to access the virtual waiting room where a nurse will admit you to the call.

The link contains all the information you need to get started with the Attend Anywhere service. It is very straight forward to access and can be accessed via mobile, tablet or computer wothout the need to install any applications. Having a virtual appointment is often more convenient as it will not require travel, however the face to face options are still available.

For more information about Attend Anywhere visit www.attendanywhere.com.

You can access the Consultation Attend Anywhere Guide online.

School Wellbeing Service

The School Wellbeing Service provides support for young people who are presenting with mental health issues and concerns, which are below an intervention from CAMHS, but above what school pastoral structures can support.

In addition to The School Wellbeing Service information, the webpage contains lots of useful resources for both young people and parents/carers; including additional support services; website information; information about apps to download; links to self-help booklets; helpline information and practical information.

Search for Services

The service directory has details of organisations th provide information about services for young people. Find services to support with Emotional Health and Wellbeing; Online Safety; LGBTQ+ and sexuality; Eating Disorder, Sexual Health and more.  All sexual health services are completely confidential. The services listed will not give information about you to any one else without your permission, unless there is a serious risk to your (or someone else), health.

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