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Relationships, Sexual Health and Teenage Pregnancy

Relationships can be good or bad. We all have relationships: family, friends, work mates, school teachers, class mates, the people you live with, hang around with and even the people you try and avoid!

What makes a good relationship?

Relationships are not always perfect, it is quite normal to have disagreements  but there are some things everyone deserves to ensure a happy and healthy relationship. Communication is key to any good relationship.  If communication has broken down and your relationship with that person is suffering it can be very hard to know what to do or who you can talk with about it.

The below information covers different types of relationships and offers information where to go to for support, advice and further information

Healthy Relationships and Sex

Sex, sexual orientation, sexual health, sexual wellbeing, what’s is it all about? There are so many stories around sex, it's hard to know what to believe! We have created a list of links below that we think will help young people understand the facts about sex and where they can get support.

Yorsexual Health              

NHS - 15 things young people should know about sex                             

NHS - am i gay lesbian or bisexual?                                                     

You Tube video on consent                

NHS Open your eyes to STIs

NHS Sexual health facts                    

What is Child Sexual Exploitation?

Should you wish to speak confidentially with your School Nurse you can do so by text or telephone them on 07833437363. This number can also be found in your school planner book, School Nurse posters in school, through your school reception or your year principle/pastoral team. 

Sexual Health Services

YorSexual Health has clinics across York and North Yorkshire which offer a range of free, friendly and confidential sexual health and contraception services to everyone. 

If you require sexual health/contraception care, please call the central booking line on 01904 721111 and press option 1.

Central booking line is open from Monday - Thursday 8:15am-5pm & Friday 8:15am-4pm. Saturday 9am-12pm.

If you are 18 and under or a vulnerable person, you can text 07973 775692 to make an appointment Monday - Thursday 8.15am - 5pm & Friday 8.15am-4pm

You will be assessed by our team and one of our nurses will call you to discuss the best way to get you the care you require.

If you require a STI screen only and you have no symptoms you may prefer to order a testing kit online from the website

Specialist Clinical Outreach Team (SCOT) nurse advisers offer advice, support and help with choices around sexual health or pregnancy. You can call them on  01904 725436.

Your School Nurse will provide confidential advice and support, text or telephone on 07833437363

Teenage Pregnancy

Finding out that you’re pregnant when you are a teenager can be daunting especially if the pregnancy wasn’t planned, but it is important to know that there is help and support available. Firstly, if you think that you may be pregnant, you need to take a pregnancy test as soon as possible to find out.

Pregnancy Tests

Pregnancy tests can be carried out from the first day of your missed period, or if you are unsure when your period would be from 21 days after having unprotected sex. Some sensitive tests can detect pregnancy a little earlier and this will usually be stated on the testing kit. Pregnancy tests can be bought from a pharmacy or supermarket and there will be instructions as to how to use it. Pregnancy tests usually require a specimen of urine which can be collected at any time of the day and does not need to be a morning urine sample.

Pregnancy tests can be done at home and you can buy them in the supermarket or in the pharmacy.

The following services can also offer free pregnancy tests:

The Healthy Child Service (School Nurses) can also support you to access pregnancy tests and can be contacted on 01904 555475. They also have a text service and can be contacted via text on 07833437363.

A positive result will almost certainly be correct. A negative result may be less reliable and so if you have a negative result and still think that you are pregnant, you should repeat the test a few days later, or speak to your GP.

Continuing with the Pregnancy

If you are pregnant and wish to continue with the pregnancy, then you should make an appointment as soon as possible to see your GP or midwife to arrange antenatal care, (this is the care that you receive from a doctor or midwife during your pregnancy). This is very important as it checks on both your health and your baby’s health throughout your pregnancy.

The following link will explain more about what antenatal care is:

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/antenatal-midwife-care-pregnant/

If you are not sure about whether or not you wish to continue with the pregnancy, then it is important that you take some time to consider your options in order to make sure that you make the decision that is right for you.

Talking to people that you trust and getting information about your options may help you decide. You may wish to speak to your partner, family or friends. Alternatively, you may wish to speak to someone less close to you such as your GP or other healthcare professional.

Your options are: 

  • Continuing with the pregnancy and keeping the baby
  • Having a termination
  • Continuing with the pregnancy and having the baby adopted 

You can also discuss your options with organisations such as: 

Bpas: helpline:0345 730 4030,  www.bpas.org

Marie Stopes: helpline:0345 300 8090, www.mariestopes.org.uk

If you are under 25, you can also find information about all options including termination from the Brook website at www.brook.org.uk

LGBTQ+

Relationships Yorkshire MESMAC is one of the oldest and largest sexual health organisations in the country. They offer services to various communities across Yorkshire, including men who have sex with men, African,and other BAME people, people misusing drugs, sex workers and LGBTQ+ young people and adults. You can find more information about what local support there is at MESMAC York by visiting their website or Tel: 01904 620400 or email@ york@mesmac.co.uk

Domestic Violence, Abuse and Rape

Affects men and women.

What is domestic violence, abuse and rape?

  • Controlling or threatening behaviour between couples, ex couples, family members or people in a position of trust
  • Physical violence and threats
  • Emotional and sexual abuse
  • Financial control
  • Forced marriage
  • 'Honour based' violence
  • Female genital mutilation (FGM)

Who can help?

If you are experiencing or have experienced domestic violence, abuse or rape it can be difficult to seek help and support. Often people feel scared to tell someone, especially if they are fearful of any consequences that might ensue. Sometimes people think they deserve what has or is happening to them.

It is important to remember if you are experiencing violence, abuse or rape you are not to blame.

IDAS- Healthy Relationships has lots of useful information to help you decide whether the relationship you are in is a good, healthy relationship.

If you are in immediate danger call the Police on 999.

Rape and Sexual Assault

If this has happened to you, it is not your fault.

If you are in immediate danger call the Police on 999 and try get to a safe place.

If you are not immediate danger you can call the Police on 101 to report a rape or sexual assault.

Search for Services

The service directory has details of organisations that can provide information about sexual health, relationships, contraception, sex and the law, puberty, being a teenage parent, and services for young people. All sexual health services are completely confidential. The services listed will not give information about you to any one else without your permission, unless there is a serious risk to your (or someone else), health.