Relationships, Sexual Health and Teenage Pregnancy

Healthy Relationships and Sex

Relationships are not always perfect, it is quite normal to have disagreements  but there are some things everyone deserves to ensure a happy and healthy relationship. IDAS- Healthy Relationships has lots of useful information to help you decide whether the relationship you are in is a good, healthy relationship.

It's better to have an embarrassing talk about sex than an embarrassing sexual experience before you're ready.

There are lots of things to think and talk about, such as:

  • Are you both ready?
  • Will you be having sex for the right reasons, and not because of peer pressure or partner pressure?
  • Do you have contraception sorted? 

Sex isn't the only aspect of a relationship, and there are other ways of enjoying each other's company. Discuss what you want and what you don't want to do.

Remember! If you are under the age of sixteen you can still get confidential advice, information and services. Talk to your school nurse or youth support worker, they will be able to help you get the information you need.

Healthy Child Service

There are so many stories around sex, it's hard to know what to believe. The Healthy Child Service can support young people to understand the facts about sex and how to make positive decisions about sexual relationships including how to stay safe. For further information please contact your school nurse on:

  • North team (Clifton) 01904 552322
  • West team (Acomb) 01904 555475
  • East team (Tang Hall) 01904 551760

Mobile phone numbers are displayed on posters in all Local Authority secondary schools for young people to be able to text the school nurses.

Specialist Clinical Outreach Team (SCOT)

Nurse advisors at the Specialist Clinical Outreach Team (SCOT) offer advice, support and help with choices around sexual health or pregnancy. You can call them on  01904 725436.

Teenage Pregnancy

Finding out that you’re pregnant when you are a teenager can be daunting especially if the pregnancy wasn’t planned, but it is important to know that there is help and support available. Firstly, if you think that you may be pregnant, you need to take a pregnancy test as soon as possible to find out.

Pregnancy Tests

Pregnancy tests can be carried out from the first day of your missed period, or if you are unsure when your period would be from 21 days after having unprotected sex. Some sensitive tests can detect pregnancy a little earlier and this will usually be stated on the testing kit. Pregnancy tests can be bought from a pharmacy or supermarket and there will be instructions as to how to use it. Pregnancy tests usually require a specimen of urine which can be collected at any time of the day and does not need to be a morning urine sample.

Pregnancy tests can be done at home and you can buy them in the supermarket or in the pharmacy.

The following services can also offer free pregnancy tests:

The Healthy Child Service (School Nurses) can also support you to access pregnancy tests and can be contacted on 01904 555475. They also have a text service and can be contacted via text on 07833437363.

A positive result will almost certainly be correct. A negative result may be less reliable and so if you have a negative result and still think that you are pregnant, you should repeat the test a few days later, or speak to your GP.

Continuing with the Pregnancy

If you are pregnant and wish to continue with the pregnancy, then you should make an appointment as soon as possible to see your GP or midwife to arrange antenatal care, (this is the care that you receive from a doctor or midwife during your pregnancy). This is very important as it checks on both your health and your baby’s health throughout your pregnancy.

The following link will explain more about what antenatal care is:

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/antenatal-midwife-care-pregnant/

If you are not sure about whether or not you wish to continue with the pregnancy, then it is important that you take some time to consider your options in order to make sure that you make the decision that is right for you.

Talking to people that you trust and getting information about your options may help you decide. You may wish to speak to your partner, family or friends. Alternatively, you may wish to speak to someone less close to you such as your GP or other healthcare professional.

Your options are: 

  • Continuing with the pregnancy and keeping the baby
  • Having a termination
  • Continuing with the pregnancy and having the baby adopted 

You can also discuss your options with organisations such as: 

bpas:  helpline:0345 730 4030,  www.bpas.org

Marie Stopes: helpline:0345 300 8090, www.mariestopes.org.uk

If you are under 25, you can also find information about all options including termination from the Brook website at www.brook.org.uk

Yorkshire MESMAC

Relationships Yorkshire MESMAC is one of the oldest and largest sexual health organisations in the country. They offer services to vatious communities accross Yorkshire, including men who have sex with men, African,and other BAME people, peoplemisusing drugs, sex workers and LBGT+ young people and adults. You can find more information about what local support there is at MESMAC York by visiting their website or Tel: 01904 620400 or email@ york@mesmac.co.uk

YorSexual Health

YorSexualHealth has clinics across York and North Yorkshire which offer a range of free, friendly and confidential sexual health and contraception services to everyone. For more information about services in your area visit their webpage or call their information and booking line on 01904 721111.

Search for Services

The service directory has details of organisations that can provide information about sexual health, relationships, contraception, sex and the law, puberty, being a teenage parent, and services for young people. All sexual health services are completely confidential. The services listed will not give information about you to any one else without your permission, unless there is a serious risk to your (or someone else’s), health.